I’m thinking to myself that I’m rather disappointed with the condetion of my life, not completely disappointed, just rather disappointed.
I think that this is because there are things that I think I should have been able to do at this point in my life, but I have not been able to do them.
The most important of which is maintain a long term committed romantic relationship. I have come close with this one. My last lover and I lived together for more than four years, which is a long time, but it came to an end despite the fact that I did not want it to.
Recently many of the people who know me well have been telling me that the end of that relationship was for the best, both for her and I. Ther’re right.
I learned lots from that relationship, and even thought it hurt like hell when it was over (and in many wys still hurts a lot today), I would not change anything even if I had a TARDIS, or a delorean, or some other kind of time machine… At least I don’t think I would. Perhaps if you gave me a time machine I would change stuff… but I don’t think that I would.
I’ve been spending lots more time inside my own head, with my thoughts, taking a personal inventory of sorts, and I have noticed that I cling to hope more than I want to, and I’m thinking that might make me a sissy or a coward… maybe even both.
Funny story: I realized this because last week I was feeling introspecive, but I did not really want to introspect. I thought I’d attempt to distract myself from the sesire to look inward by watching an an episode of House MD, it was the one where House kidnaps the star of the Soap that he watches, and saves his life.
During the show the soap actor is talking about how he dislikes the fact that his work is “meaningless” and he is miserable but does nothing to change his situation. House says (and I’m paraphrasing here paraphrasing here, relying on my memory so this is not the even close to the exact dialogue, but you will get the idea.)
Greg House: If you don’t like being on the plane than jump off.
Sick Actor: What if I’m afarid to jump.
GH: You do nothing because you have hope that you CAN do something. If you try to do something then fail, than you don’t have hope anymore. You have nothing. The thing about hope is… that it is for sissies.
I’m currently in a situation that I really don’t like very much, and I could take action to change it, but I don’t. The reason that I don’t is because if I try to change it and it does not change, or it gets worse, than the hope that it couldget better if I just attempted to change it goes away as well. I don’t know if I could take that right now. For real.
So am I a coward? Am I a sissy?
Is it a problem that I have to ask those questions (on the internet for that matter)?
…
The world is a dangerous place huh?
-N
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